It’s taken quite a few years to rest in the truth. Truth to me back in the day was thinking I was right. That I knew what I knew and that it was right and true.

I now know, I didn’t have a clue. That though I spent 4 years steeped in the church from 14 to about 18 plus years old , I had no clue and no truth. I still, at 51, haven’t fully arrived for sure.

I’m a police officer by trade, but I’m also a police officer by heart. Scripture calls us peace keepers. It’s because my heart seeks truth and of this world I find it not. Back then I was much more of the world. So what I knew to be true impacted my behavior, my thoughts, how I treated people, how I ran my household.

As husbands we are charged to be the head of our household.  This sounds authoritarian and like a position of power, but really it is more a position of responsibility.  That responsibility is to love my wife as Christ loves His Church.

When we talk about how Christ loves His Church, we go straight to, He died for His Church. He died for the sins of the world, which ultimately is life changing for all of us, but in reality He did much more.  He taught, He loved, He healed, He encouraged, He built people up, to name a few. These are all things that we are to do as a husband for our wife, and if this is the manner to which I was to love my wife, I did not.

I loved as the world loves, material, selfish, money, committed to everything, but that which I was responsible for, my wife, my boys, my family.

As a result, my family never came to Cherry Point North Carolina.

So I can point out specks in the eyes of others, but I need to deal with the log in my own eye first, and it was large and in charge: a log of solid oak.

Christ is not just our Savior, He is also our example.

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” John 14:6